Speaking from the Heart: Using Values to Communicate with Difficult Family Members
Tracy Bennett works with Dr. Moreno to craft a values-aligned conversation with her emotionally distant and judgmental mother. Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Dr. Moreno helps Tracy identify her core values—authenticity, emotional safety, and courage—and uses these as anchors for a script to express her needs while maintaining emotional regulation. The session includes a brief mindfulness grounding exercise, explores the role of discomfort in value-based action, and equips Tracy with pre- and post-conversation techniques to stay present and reduce emotional fallout. The session empowers Tracy to speak up while honoring her personal growth.
Member: Tracy, 46 year old female, New Mexico
Therapist: Dr. Moreno, LPC, Licensed Professional Counselor
Key Takeaways
Values can guide difficult conversations more effectively than emotions alone.
Mindfulness techniques can reduce anticipatory anxiety and help with emotional recovery.
Discomfort is not a sign of failure but a signal of meaningful action.
Scripts should be authentic, not perfect—your truth matters.
Setting boundaries isn’t about confrontation, it’s about connection on healthier terms.
Focus Areas
Emotional Regulation
Communication & Conflict Resolution
Boundaries & Assertiveness
Parenting & Family Life
Mindfulness & Present Awareness
Mental Health & Emotional Well-being
Self-growth & Identity
Anxiety & Depression